I met a new friend recently. I will call her Miss Sunshine.

Miss Sunshine did something hard no one else wanted to do with me. She talked with me about Roy. How I had loved him, but also let his bad decisions wreck my life.

That I needed to stop letting people do that, stop hooking up with abusers. Stop letting myself be in situations where people intended and did harm continually.

Roy sincerely meant well, sincerely loved me, but he made bad decisions nonetheless. He wasn’t malicious. But he was bad for me and my life was worse after.

Miss Sunshine said, stop that. Value yourself more than that. Don’t let any mortal human take over your life and wreck it. No matter who.

Get your life stable; live it sensibly. Recover from what you have been through. No more abusers!

Miss Sunshine was scared to have that talk with me. The situation with Roy was pretty much 99% him and 1% me.

But if Miss Sunshine didn’t address the 1%, it would continue, and we cannot have this.

Grateful beyond words she told me to get my crap together and make no deals with abusers.