I just got in a Facebook spat with a friend’s nephew and now she is mad at me. We will likely work that out but thinking about that interaction.
I have been strictly instructed by the Lord to avoid flame wars. But this little punk took the first swing. Then, when I swung back he went running to his aunt save me from the big mean adult he just took a shot at.
I told her, your friends mess with me at their own risk. I am legit dangerous and have scared and intimidated grown adults and even demons. I got a very healthy large guy on DRUGS to leave my house! With the force of my will and my legit position. And nothing else!
My most recent relationship, he was terrified of me. I go into COMMAND and he was please don’t use that on me thanks haha. A grown ass man.
I walk down the street any time of day or night and people leave me alone. There is something about my manner that makes people not want to pick me for next victim.
But beyond being scary in general, the fact this is a kid makes it important to stand my ground. The fact he picked a fight, has consequences and now trying to avoid the consequences means I have to stand by what I did.
That this kid thinks it is ok to pick a fight, disrespect an adult, and will be protected from consequences (which is what my friend is trying to do) means he will keep doing this.
It is my friend’s space, I said I would respect that but more than implied if she didn’t want drama from me tell her friends and family not to throw the first punch. They do so at their own risk.
She is subscribing I think to the prevalent philosophy of parenting where we spare children from all bad things and encase them in soft fluffy pillows so nothing ever harms them.
The implication is I am the adult and will see it was wrong to get mad at a kid and will apologize to the little snowflake. And that will literally never happen.
I love my friend; this isn’t a criticism of her but a criticism of current parenting philosophies she has subscribed to like millions of others.
How I see it is kid disrespected an adult and threw the first punch. Adult fought back and this was painful. So he ran to his adult to protect him from the consequences of his bad behavior. Instead of teaching him not to behave this way, she expects me to take back what I did.
I will NEVER do that. As the instruction of a child is at stake, I will not give an inch. One day he will run into a real punch. His developing lifetime behavior pattern of I hit and run away will not save him then.
He will have lots bigger problems then!
So nope. Respect both of them but no yielding at all. Especially as I also wasn’t wrong.
But it helps me see why society has the problems it does.
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